Friday, May 8, 2015
Sunday, April 20, 2014
Cara nak bersyukur tu banyak. Allah Maha Berkuasa tidak mengira ruang, masa dan waktu. Walau dimanapun jua nikmat Allah itu dimana-mana. Setiap hari kita dilimpahi dengan nikmat Allah Yang Maha Pemurah. Setiap hari manusia diberi dan terus diberi oleh Allah Yang Maha Pengasih. Sebutkan saja nikmat Allah berikan, yang paling hebat pada diri kita..dari rambut kepala, mata, telinga, hidung, bibir, wajah, leher, bahu, lengan, tangan, jari jemari, peha, betis hingga ke hujung kaki..itu belum termasuk organ dalaman, belum termasuk akal fikiran, hati, perasan, emosi. ROH..MasyaAllah tak terkira...itu baru nikmat diri sendiri...nikmat deria penglihatan mata, untuk kita lihat orang-orang yang kita sayangi, nikmat deria rasa untuk kita merasa makanan dengan lidah, deria sentuhan untuk kita merasai pelbagai bentuk sifat bulat, bersegi, berlekuk..macam-macam.
Dengan itu bersyukurlah. Bersyukur dengan apa yang kita ada. Kadang-kadang bukan semua orang dapat merasa nikmat yang kita rasakan..kurang kasih sayang, penuh kasih kecintaan, dicintai, dicelakakan, dipukul, diluka, diperbodoh, diperalat, dizalimi, rasa susah, derita...rasa hebat,..macam2 rasa yang kita rasa (mgkn bukan semua rasa sama seperti yang kita rasa) dan bukan semua orang sudah menikmati apa yang kita nikmati.
Kenapa perlu kita lihat rumah banglo, villa besar yang bertingkat, yang sudah pasti berjuta harganya sedangkan jika periuk nasi dirumah kita sentiasa penuh dengan nasi, tilam dibilik masih boleh medodoikan tidur malam kita, rumah pangsa bertingkat suda cukup melindungi diri kita dari panas dan sejuk.Mengapa perlu bandingkan diatas.Sedangkan dibawah ada lagi kehidupan yang kasihan.Cuba fikirkan mereka yang terpaksa kais pagi, mkn pagi..kais petang makan petang..atau mereka yang cacat kurang anggota badan, sudahlah orang kurang upaya, miskin lagi tidak punya rumah..hanya tidur dikaki lima, tidur atas simen tidak berselimut berbantalkan hanya lengan,ditemani lipas-lipas yang menyelinap bersorok di antara baju yang koyak dan lusuh. Kadang-kadang makan cuma roti kosong. Yang terpaksa diceraikan (kemudian disimpan untuk bekalan esok) untuk mengalas perut.
Kenapa perlu mengeluh bila itu kurang, ini kurang..Cuba fikirkan orang yang susah, kadang-kadang mereka tak mandi berhari-hari, mungkin berbulan..air yang ada hanya untuk disimpan sebaai bekalan minuman.Bersyukurla kerana dengan bersyukur kita tidak kehilangan apa-apa. Malah dengan memanjat syukur Inn sha Allah rezeki kita sentiasa bertambah dan terbuka. Hidup pula akan sentiasa bahagia kerana sekecil manapun nikmat kita tetap bersyukur kepada Allah.
"Dan (ingatlah) tatkala Rab (Tuhan) kamu memberi peringatan:
“Sesungguhnya jika kamu bersyukur, nescaya ditambahkan (nikmat) kepada kamu,
dan jika kamu kufur, sesungguhnya azab-Ku (Allah) sangatlah pedih.”
(Surah Ibrahim: Ayat 7)
Thursday, January 16, 2014
Ever wonder why the best looking guys out there always
seem to date the skinny “hot chicks” ?
What makes guys jump to attention and break their necks
when a skinny hot chick walks into the room?
Here are just a few reasons for you take into consideration.
This post is not intended to make anyone feel bad, but rather
shed some light on some of the (stupid?) reasons as to why
most guys are only really attracted to skinny women.
are plenty of guys out there that find “not so skinny” girls
perfectly attractive. It’s just harder to find them.
Take a look at any magazine cover or t.v. show
and you will see nothing but size 2 and under women.
Hollywood and the media perpetuate skinny women
as being “hot”. Back in the 1600′s, this was not the case.
Women that were “pleasantly plump” (even downright obese)
were seen as beautiful because their size suggested that they
would be good child bearers and mothers. Skinny chicks back in
those days were looked upon as poor and malnourished.
I think any guy that is having a problem getting a skinny chick
in this day and age should devote his efforts to building a time
machine back to the 1600′s. Jackpot, baby.
A good portion of the guys out there watch insane amounts of
porn. Almost all of these porn models have perfect asses,
skinny legs and arms and big breasts. To a guy, porn is like
a sacrament. It is how most guys learn about sex and what
a girl looks like with her clothes off. I would go as far as
saying that porn for most guys is like having a second girlfriend.
She doesn’t care how hung or buff you are, she is always there
whenever you need her and in those times when a real woman is
hard to find…..She will be only a few mouse-clicks away.
With all that being said, is it any wonder why guys tend to
think that chicks in real life with “banging bodies” are hot?
Guys don’t like to see arm fat and belly fat and insane amounts
of leg fat on a girl they are having sex with. Most guys would
say that this is a complete turn-off. When a guy sees a girl
in real life, he sometimes pictures what she would look like
having sex with him. If all he can see is a big belly, he might
get a bit (read: totally) turned off.
A skinny girl can also do things in bed that a “bigger” girl
would have a hard time with. The word “spinner” comes
4. Bragging rights
Most guys like to show off their skinny trophy girlfriends to
their friends and the public in general. It gives them a sense
of pride and ownership of such a “valuable asset” and some
might even go as far as to revel in the fact that they are
making other men jealous. Guys are also keenly aware
that if they are dating a “fat chick”, their friends would
have a ton of material (no pun intended) to make fun
of them with.
5. Low self esteem
This one goes hand in hand with the #4 reason. Guys that
tend to like to show off their girlfriends usually have low self
esteem. By having other guys (including their friends) look
at their girlfriend and in some cases act jealous, it reaffirms
their self worth on a daily basis.
6. The protector
Some guys want to feel like they are the sole
protector of their girlfriend. As such, a skinny girl
would fit snugly inside his arms and he could hold her
and feel that she is his little angel. He could curl
up with her on the sofa when watching a movie and
she would fit right into the couch.
7. A sense of accomplishment
Generally speaking, skinny “hot” chicks have a ton
of self confidence, and as such, are a bit harder to
get a date with (because a wider dating pool is open
to them than to girls that are “bigger”). Guys that can successfully
score a date (or more) with a skinny girl tend to feel
that they have actually put in work and were rewarded
greatly for their efforts. Don’t believe me? Take any
normal looking guy out to a bar and set him off on
a mission to get phone numbers. Chances are that
the majority of the phone numbers he will get are from
girls that aren't secure with the way their bodies look.
Girls that are willing to take anything that is thrown their way.
Chances are if he is very lucky, he might get that
skinny chick at the bar to give him her number. More likely
than not, she won’t because almost all the guys in the
bar are vying for her attention. This potential denial
in and of itself makes a guy want a skinny chick just
that much more. You always want what you can’t have.
And the final reason (and most likely) why some guys
are really and truly only attracted to skinny women:
8. Guy that only date skinny girls are shallow
assholes that will one day wind up being 40, single,
and balding with a huge beer belly, going to community college
classes at night with the sole intention of trying to pick
up some 18 year old piece of ass.
Not that there is anything wrong with that….because if you
are a guy that is 40 years old, fat, balding and taking community
college courses at night for the sole intention of getting a younger
female (and you are successful), my hat is off you.
Rock on brother !!
My advice to you? Don’t worry about your weight, unless
it is for health concerns only. If you do choose to embark
on a diet plan or want to start exercising to lose weight,
do it for yourself. Don’t do it because “one day I will be
skinny and hot”. You are only setting yourself up for failure
1) The Total Package
3) The Guy Who Has To Marry Someone Of The Same Ethnicity Or His Parents Will Never Speak To Him Again
‘Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.’
~ W. Gibson.
Have you ever shared your dream with someone, only to have them stomp on it with a few unsupportive words?
‘I’ve been thinking about writing a book, and—’
‘It’s really hard to get published, you know.’
There’s a breed of control freaks who quietly lurk, ready to attack your precious, vulnerable ideas as soon as you share them with the world. These people are known as naysayers, non-supporters, dream killers, or just plain assholes.
You’ll find them in the workplace, in social circles, in the family, or in your marital bed. It could be your boss, your pal, your parents, your husband or wife, your neighbor, your neighbor’s mother’s husband …
Regardless of where you encounter them, naysayers all have the same toxic tendency: they get off on popping bubbles, raining on parades, throwing wet blankets on ambitions, and farting on dreams. “What’s that? You want to travel around the world?” Brruuuub!
How to recognize a naysayer
This is usually how it unfolds: you dream up a plan that excites you to the core of your being. It may be an adventure, a new career path, an artistic pursuit, or a crazy invention to rival Velcro. Hopefully it’s involves a plan more inspired than quitting your job to sit at home in your robe growing out your facial hair, while watching soaps day long (in lieu of using soaps). If that is your ambition, you’re not dealing with naysayers, you’re dealing with sane people. Get help.
But if you have a solid, well-considered life dream that you’re driven to accomplish, you’ll probably want to share it with friends, family and co-workers. You’ll want to come out of the closet with your grandiose dream. Some will pat you on the back and say, “GO FOR IT,” but there’s alwaysone person who gets off on taking a dump in your happiness sandwich.
Common remarks from naysayers:
You might receive ’helpful advice’ along the lines of: ‘I know someone else who tried that and it didn’t work out for them.’
Your confidence will be attacked with: ‘Are you sure you’re qualified?’
Naysayers love to highlight the impracticalities of your dream, “You can’t make any money doing that.”
Or, they’ll call upon ‘normal people’ as the basis for their argument, pointing out how you’re destined for failure because you’re not acting like one of them. ‘Normal people usually just get a real job,’ or, ‘This isn’t what normal people do.’
There’s an easy way to know if you’re dealing with a naysayer. When their mouth opens up and words come out, does it:
1. Make your heart happy?
If your answer is yes, you’re being lovingly supported.
2. Make your feel like your guts have just been through a meat mincer?
If your answer is yes, you’ve been naybashed by an asshole.
The psychology of an asshole
Most often, naysayers have not fulfilled their own dreams. They don’t live an inspired existence because they’re too busy living in fear. Maybe they made the mistake of listening to their own naysayers, and they’re just parroting words that have kept them down their whole life? Perhaps they believe that life is all about living inside a fantasyland called Normalville, where regular people populate the average town of Mediocrity, sipping on lukewarm cups of boring?
Chances are, they’re just scared. Fear of loss, fear of being alone, fear of change, fear of being insignificant, fear of death or injury, fear of being judged. Your wild ambitions threaten the naysayer. He/she likes to keep life safe, simple and predictable, and by pissing in your party hat, they’re hoping to keep you small and easy to manage. Your goal threatens to throw out the equilibrium of his/her universe. But the naysayer is out of luck because the entire universe doesn’t actually belong to them(as much as they like to believe that it does)
How to deal with a naysayer
Talk it out
If the negative comments are coming from a person you care deeply about, see what you can do to talk it through. Ask them what their concerns are and, without judgement, address them one by one. Don’t let it escalate into an argument—stay calm. Comfort them through their fears, while peacefully standing your ground. This is your life, your journey and your happiness, so own it and make it clear that you won’t sway from your dream. Negotiate and compromise if possible, but make sure you leave the conversation with your heart fluttering. If you come away from the conversation feeling heavy and sad, you’ve just been naybashed once again. Perhaps it’s time to consider therapy?
If the criticism is coming from your family, or a dear old friend, it may be best to simply block it out. Have confidence in your plans, and refuse to hear their crap. Locate your internal switch called GIVE A SHIT and simply flick it over from DO to DON’T.
Perhaps the naysayer is a friend or partner who never supports your dreams? If you find yourself in a relationship with a toxic person who continually tears holes in your ambitions, it may be best to cut off the relationship. Choose to surround yourself with people who make you want to break out into ahappy dance. Align with people who blow air into your balloon, rather than the pricks.
Sharpen your swords and get ready for some nayslaying, because:
Have you had any experiences with naysayers? Have your dreams been naybashed? What did you do to cope? What advice would you give to people who are not being supported?
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
sometimes i feel lost in my own place.
sometimes i can't figure it out..
walk with wondering eyes
this road seem long enough
with all this memory,
i let it alive...
coz i can't seem find a way to erase it.
take half of my life...
here i go again with broken heart
leaving my memory with empty room
inside my deepest heart.
i found you
as you always keep me holding in your heart
if we can't seem to find way back
love you always,my twilight