Thursday, January 16, 2014

WHY MEN LIKE SKINNY WOMEN? (the cold hard truth)

Ever wonder why the best looking guys out there always
seem to date the skinny “hot chicks” ?

What makes guys jump to attention and break their necks
when a skinny hot chick walks into the room?

Here are just a few reasons for you take into consideration.
This post is not intended to make anyone feel bad, but rather
shed some light on some of the (stupid?) reasons as to why
most guys are only really attracted to skinny women.

This article doesn't apply to all guys. There
are plenty of guys out there that find “not so skinny” girls
perfectly attractive. It’s just harder to find them.

1. Society
Take a look at any magazine cover or t.v. show
and you will see nothing but size 2 and under women.
Hollywood and the media perpetuate skinny women
as being “hot”. Back in the 1600′s, this was not the case.
Women that were “pleasantly plump” (even downright obese)
were seen as beautiful because their size suggested that they
would be good child bearers and mothers. Skinny chicks back in
those days were looked upon as poor and malnourished.
I think any guy that is having a problem getting a skinny chick
in this day and age should devote his efforts to building a time
machine back to the 1600′s. Jackpot, baby.

2. Porn
A good portion of the guys out there watch insane amounts of
porn. Almost all of these porn models have perfect asses,
skinny legs and arms and big breasts. To a guy, porn is like
a sacrament. It is how most guys learn about sex and what
a girl looks like with her clothes off. I would go as far as
saying that porn for most guys is like having a second girlfriend.
She doesn’t care how hung or buff you are, she is always there
whenever you need her and in those times when a real woman is
hard to find…..She will be only a few mouse-clicks away.
With all that being said, is it any wonder why guys tend to
think that chicks in real life with “banging bodies” are hot?

3. Sex
Guys don’t like to see arm fat and belly fat and insane amounts
of leg fat on a girl they are having sex with. Most guys would
say that this is a complete turn-off. When a guy sees a girl
in real life, he sometimes pictures what she would look like
having sex with him. If all he can see is a big belly, he might
get a bit (read: totally) turned off.

A skinny girl can also do things in bed that a “bigger” girl
would have a hard time with. The word “spinner” comes
to mind….

4. Bragging rights
Most guys like to show off their skinny trophy girlfriends to
their friends and the public in general. It gives them a sense
of pride and ownership of such a “valuable asset” and some
might even go as far as to revel in the fact that they are
making other men jealous. Guys are also keenly aware
that if they are dating a “fat chick”, their friends would
have a ton of material (no pun intended) to make fun
of them with.

5. Low self esteem
This one goes hand in hand with the #4 reason. Guys that
tend to like to show off their girlfriends usually have low self
esteem. By having other guys (including their friends) look
at their girlfriend and in some cases act jealous, it reaffirms
their self worth on a daily basis.

6. The protector
Some guys want to feel like they are the sole
protector of their girlfriend. As such, a skinny girl
would fit snugly inside his arms and he could hold her
and feel that she is his little angel. He could curl
up with her on the sofa when watching a movie and
she would fit right into the couch.

7. A sense of accomplishment
Generally speaking, skinny “hot” chicks have a ton
of self confidence, and as such, are a bit harder to
get a date with (because a wider dating pool is open
to them than to girls that are “bigger”). Guys that can successfully
score a date (or more) with a skinny girl tend to feel
that they have actually put in work and were rewarded
greatly for their efforts. Don’t believe me? Take any
normal looking guy out to a bar and set him off on
a mission to get phone numbers. Chances are that
the majority of the phone numbers he will get are from
girls that aren't secure with the way their bodies look.
Girls that are willing to take anything that is thrown their way.

Chances are if he is very lucky, he might get that
skinny chick at the bar to give him her number. More likely
than not, she won’t because almost all the guys in the
bar are vying for her attention. This potential denial
in and of itself makes a guy want a skinny chick just
that much more. You always want what you can’t have.

And the final reason (and most likely) why some guys
are really and truly only attracted to skinny women:

8. Guy that only date skinny girls are shallow
assholes that will one day wind up being 40, single,
and balding with a huge beer belly, going to community college
classes at night with the sole intention of trying to pick
up some 18 year old piece of ass.

Not that there is anything wrong with that….because if you
are a guy that is 40 years old, fat, balding and taking community
college courses at night for the sole intention of getting a younger
female (and you are successful), my hat is off you.

Rock on brother !!
My advice to you? Don’t worry about your weight, unless
it is for health concerns only. If you do choose to embark
on a diet plan or want to start exercising to lose weight,
do it for yourself. Don’t do it because “one day I will be
skinny and hot”. You are only setting yourself up for failure
that way.


30-year-old guys are a curious bunch.Find me a group of 30-year-old men and I’ll pick out one overgrown frat dude living with roommates, another guy who just dropped his two kids off at school, a few who are well into their careers and a couple soul-searchers looking for work. Some will tell you that they've finally figured it all out and some more will say they feel hopeless for the first time in their lives. It’s a motley crew.But perhaps the motliest part of this crowd is the ever-growing group of 30-year-old single guys. If you want a case study in humanity, 30-year-old single guys have pretty much all the bases covered. Let’s examine some of the common types:

1) The Total Package

The Total Package is smart—he went to a top college. The Total Package is an athlete, a musician, and an avid traveler. The Total Package is handsome—and you better believe he’s well-groomed.
The Total Package has a hell of a career going, but don’t you for a second suggest that The Total Package would be a workaholic—The Total Package is a family man.
There’s just one thing The Total Package seems to be having a hard time finding—a girl worthy of his greatness. 
Yes, the woman fit for The Total Package will be the ultimate icing on his cake of perfection. He imagines her often—gorgeous as they come, she turns heads; bursting with charm and charisma, she lights up every room she enters; she’s a brilliant rising star in her career and beloved by her many friends. And that’s just her public persona—at home, she’s fantastic in bed, a spectacular cook, loving, selfless, and devoted. Oh and she also speaks French, plays tennis, sings beautifully, reads voraciously and she’s a history buff. His Juliet.
Unsurprisingly, The Total Package is single. He’s immersed in a fierce battle between his superhuman standards and his terror of being 40 and single—because 40 and single is not supposed to be part of The Total Package’s story.

2) The New Lease On Life Guy
As long as anyone can remember, The New Lease On Life Guy had been dating his long term girlfriend. He never seemed that happy in the relationship, but everyone just assumed they would eventually get married. Now, after a long and difficult breakup, The New Lease On Life Guy has reemerged with a bang and is suddenly acting like he just got called down on The Price Is Right. He’s not really sure how to be single but he’s goddamn happy he is, and he’s sure as hell going out tonight.
He’s also the arch-nemesis of The Resigned Fiance, who’s in an equally unhappy relationship but just kind of kept going with it, unable to resist the sweet, sweet inertia, and who most certainly does not want to hear about The New Lease On Life Guy’s latest exploits.

3) The Guy Who Has To Marry Someone Of The Same Ethnicity Or His Parents Will Never Speak To Him Again

It’s hard enough finding someone to be your life partner, and this guy’s parents are really not making things any easier. He tried to rebel briefly, but after his last girlfriend was not allowed in his parents’ house, causing her to cry, he gave up on that.
He’d also really appreciate it if his mother would stop setting him up on dates.
He’d also really appreciate it if his mother would stop setting him up on dates.

4) The Misogynist

The Misogynist hates women, and women hate The Misogynist. The Misogynist doesn't know a whole lot about the other gender, but he can tell you the exact number of them he’s slept with—214.
He did quite well with girls back in his earlier days when many were in their attracted to assholes phase, but lately, only those with the lowest self-esteem seem to gravitate towards him.
The Misogynist’s close cousin is The Perpetual Cheater. They’re different but they understand each other.

5) The Guy Who Peaked Too Early

Back in the day, The Guy Who Peaked Too Early had everything a 17-year-old girl could ever dream of. His sky-high confidence carried him smoothly through college, and no one was surprised when he landed a smart, sweet, beautiful girlfriend in his early 20s. But The Guy Who Peaked Too Early was just getting started. There was a field that needed to be played, and he broke up with his girlfriend when he was 24.
Now it’s seven years later, his hair got bored and left, and his high school football glory isn’t part of the conversation that much these days. And he’s noticing that girls like his ex-girlfriend don’t seem to be all that into him anymore. Realizing this about five years after everyone else, he takes a deep sigh and cranks his standards down a few big notches.
His antithesis is The Guy Who’s Finally a Good Catch. After losing some weight, getting decent clothes, and having early career success, this guy is getting more attention each week than he got in his first 25 years combined. He prominently displays photos on Facebook of himself on dates with attractive girls for the express purpose of making sure everyone from his high school sees his current situation.

6) The Normal Guy Who Just Hasn't Met The Right Girl Yet And He Really Wishes People Would Stop Looking At Him With Those Pitying Eyes

Ah,the NGWJHMTRGYAHRWPWSLAHWTPE.. The NGWJHMTRGYAHRWPWSLAHWTPE is enjoying his life. He likes his job, he likes his friends, and he likes being single just fine. He’s in no rush to be in a relationship and feels totally confident that at some point, he’ll meet the right girl and get married.
He’s also not quite sure why everyone who knows him is trying to figure out “what the problem is.” His parents are worried, never wasting an opportunity to ask him if he’s been dating anyone. His friends want to help, setting him up on dates every chance they get. He appreciates all the unsolicited support, but he also thinks it would be pretty great if everyone stopped thinking there was something wrong with him.

7) The Aggressively Online Dating Guy Who Can’t Believe He’s Not Married Yet

The opposite of the previous guy, The Aggressively Online Dating Guy Who Can’t Believe He’s Not Married Yet can’t believe he’s not married yet. Through high school, college and his twenties, he was always The Guy With A Girlfriend. He spent years enjoying pitying his single friends, and somehow, he’s now 30 and single.
He has four online dating profiles, and when people ask him if he’s dating anyone, he explains that he’s just too busy with his career right now for a relationship.

8) The In-The-Closet Guy

The In-The-Closet Guy is so close to being the perfect catch—he’s handsome, he’s well-dressed, and he has a great job. He’s funny, articulate, and charming. The only tiny little inconvenience is that he’s not attracted to females whatsoever.
His antithesis is The NGWJHMTRGYAHRWPWSLAHWTPE, who’s had just enough of the theories about him being gay, since he’s completely straight and, for the hundredth time, just hasn't met the right girl yet and is really very okay with being single right now.

9) The Chinese Single Guy

The Chinese Single Guy appreciates the government’s effort to control population through their One-Child Policy. He really does. But he’d also ya know like to lose his virginity at some point and that’s kind of hard when there are 18% more men than women in his generation.
This is because a lot of The Chinese Single Guy’s potential girlfriends were killed by their parents when they were two hours old.
The Chinese Single Guy doesn’t know what China’s plan is for the excess 18% of guys who will not be able to find a wife, but he’s pretty sure they’re not making the situation any easier by rampantly discriminating against homosexuality.

10) The Guy Who Has Just Fully Quit At This Point

The Guy Who Has Just Fully Quit At This Point never tried that hard in the first place, but at least there used to be a semblance of effort. He doesn't like going to bars, refuses to try online dating, and both the bong and the X-Box are back in the living room following their brief stint in the closet after his friend gave him a pep talk one day four months ago.
Deep down, The Guy Who Has Just Fully Quit At This Point is pretty frightened about a lot of things, but his fear manifests itself in indifferent denial, and passivity usually prevails. There is only way that things change for The Guy Who Has Just Fully Quit At This Point, and that’s to find himself squarely in the sights of The Girl Who Relentlessly Pursues. Until then, the whole thing isn't really his issue.


‘Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.’
~ W. Gibson.

Have you ever shared your dream with someone, only to have them stomp on it with a few unsupportive words?
‘I’ve been thinking about writing a book, and—’
‘It’s really hard to get published, you know.’
There’s a breed of control freaks who quietly lurk, ready to attack your precious, vulnerable ideas as soon as you share them with the world. These people are known as naysayers, non-supporters, dream killers, or just plain assholes.
You’ll find them in the workplace, in social circles, in the family, or in your marital bed. It could be your boss, your pal, your parents, your husband or wife, your neighbor, your neighbor’s mother’s husband …
Regardless of where you encounter them, naysayers all have the same toxic tendency: they get off on popping bubbles, raining on parades, throwing wet blankets on ambitions, and farting on dreams. “What’s that? You want to travel around the world?” Brruuuub! 
How to recognize a naysayer
This is usually how it unfolds: you dream up a plan that excites you to the core of your being. It may be an adventure, a new career path, an artistic pursuit, or a crazy invention to rival Velcro. Hopefully it’s involves a plan more inspired than quitting your job to sit at home in your robe growing out your facial hair, while watching soaps day long (in lieu of using soaps). If that is your ambition, you’re not dealing with naysayers, you’re dealing with sane people. Get help.
But if you have a solid, well-considered life dream that you’re driven to accomplish, you’ll probably want to share it with friends, family and co-workers. You’ll want to come out of the closet with your grandiose dream. Some will pat you on the back and say, “GO FOR IT,” but there’s alwaysone person who gets off on taking a dump in your happiness sandwich.
Common remarks from naysayers:
You might receive ’helpful advice’ along the lines of: ‘I know someone else who tried that and it didn’t work out for them.’
Your confidence will be attacked with: ‘Are you sure you’re qualified?’
Naysayers love to highlight the impracticalities of your dream, “You can’t make any money doing that.”
Or, they’ll call upon ‘normal people’ as the basis for their argument, pointing out how you’re destined for failure because you’re not acting like one of them. ‘Normal people usually just get a real job,’ or, ‘This isn’t what normal people do.’

There’s an easy way to know if you’re dealing with a naysayer. When their mouth opens up and words come out, does it:
1. Make your heart happy? 
If your answer is yes, you’re being lovingly supported.
2. Make your feel like your guts have just been through a meat mincer?
If your answer is yes, you’ve been naybashed by an asshole.

The psychology of an asshole

Most often, naysayers have not fulfilled their own dreams. They don’t live an inspired existence because they’re too busy living in fear. Maybe they made the mistake of listening to their own naysayers, and they’re just parroting words that have kept them down their whole life? Perhaps they believe that life is all about living inside a fantasyland called Normalville, where regular people populate the average town of Mediocrity, sipping on lukewarm cups of boring?
Chances are, they’re just scared. Fear of loss, fear of being alone, fear of change, fear of being insignificant, fear of death or injury, fear of being judged. Your wild ambitions threaten the naysayer. He/she likes to keep life safe, simple and predictable, and by pissing in your party hat, they’re hoping to keep you small and easy to manage. Your goal threatens to throw out the equilibrium of his/her universe. But the naysayer is out of luck because the entire universe doesn’t actually belong to them(as much as they like to believe that it does)

How to deal with a naysayer

Talk it out

If the negative comments are coming from a person you care deeply about, see what you can do to talk it through. Ask them what their concerns are and, without judgement, address them one by one. Don’t let it escalate into an argument—stay calm. Comfort them through their fears, while peacefully standing your ground. This is your life, your journey and your happiness, so own it and make it clear that you won’t sway from your dream. Negotiate and compromise if possible, but make sure you leave the conversation with your heart fluttering. If you come away from the conversation feeling heavy and sad, you’ve just been naybashed once again. Perhaps it’s time to consider therapy?


If the criticism is coming from your family, or a dear old friend, it may be best to simply block it out. Have confidence in your plans, and refuse to hear their crap. Locate your internal switch called GIVE A SHIT and simply flick it over from DO to DON’T.

Sever ties

Perhaps the naysayer is a friend or partner who never supports your dreams? If you find yourself in a relationship with a toxic person who continually tears holes in your ambitions, it may be best to cut off the relationship. Choose to surround yourself with people who make you want to break out into ahappy dance. Align with people who blow air into your balloon, rather than the pricks.
Sharpen your swords and get ready for some nayslaying, because:

Have you had any experiences with naysayers? Have your dreams been naybashed? What did you do to cope? What advice would you give to people who are not being supported?